The Power of 'Sticking With It'
Author: Tim Sant: Head Of Dance for Ceroc
Date: 3rd January 2017
Categories: Beginners, Education, Lesson
"There is always the occassional first timer who flourishes from the word go, but for the overwhelming majority, that first step on the dance floor is not only an alien experience, but an exposing one too."
This is a shameless plea for endurance. A begging for Dance class fortitude.
Our members literally LOVE Ceroc. I know this for a fact. It never ceases to inspire a 'warm tummy feeling' when I hear anecdotes of achievement, forging friendships, improving confidence, healthier bodies, happier minds, blossoming relationships, Ceroc weddings, Ceroc babies even and non-stop, heartfelt gratitude. Dance really does change lives for the better.
Crashing my dreamlike optimism right back down to earth however is the realisation of how many people only ever try Ceroc once, as a result of their own self-doubt.
Throughout my 15 years on the Ceroc scene (a significant stretch of which has been spent on the stage, instructing) I have witnessed the full range of people's reactions towards their first ever dance class. There is always the occassional first timer who flourishes from the word go, but for the overwhelming majority, that first step on the dance floor is not only an alien experience, but an exposing one too.
What do I do? Do I just take this persons hand and start moving? Do I talk to them or keep quiet? Should I tell them I have never danced before? What if I make a mistake? Where do I stand? Oh fantastic, I haven't got a partner!
Vulnerability does odd things to us. Some of us go quiet whilst we soak it all in. Some of us get giggly and babble nonsensical things we will later deem utterly embarrassing. Some of us (myself included) perform to the crowds and demand attention, hiding our nerves behind bravado. Some of us get frustrated and self-critical, because apologising shows that at least we're aware of my inabilities.
Whatever the reaction, the fact remains that 99% of Beginners are somewhere on the spectrum between uneasy and petrified.
For a handful, these nerves subside almost immediately when the music starts playing, when the class starts moving, when everyone starts laughing or when the comforting hand of a Taxi dancer reaches out. For some however, that small seed of doubt about their ability is enough for them to throw the towel in.
As an instructor, I endeavour to spend time with all of my Beginners and explain to them that their sentiments are not uncommon. If, however, I could reach out and allay fears BEFORE people set foot in that venue, I am adamant that people would not only enjoy their first experience much more, but maybe they'd even consider giving it another go.
So, to my apprehensive Beginners:
- Persevere! Learning to dance, like learning any new skill, takes a little time and perserverance. You can't converse with the locals after one Spanish lesson, you can't master a double baked parmesan souffle on your first step into a kitchen, it's foolish to think you can dance like the Strictly Stars after 45 minutes in a Beginner lesson! Feelings of accomplishment and confidence are, however, closer than you think.
- You will start to experience success on week 2. The feel of the dance becomes second nature, muscle memory kicks in and it all starts to make sense. It feels smoother to dance, you are moving with your partner around the floor, and the sense of accomplishment is empowering.
- Understand that every single person in the room has been a Beginner once. We have all felt those nerves, we have all trodden on our fair share of toes and we have all left the dance floor feeling like it will never come together. It does...I promise...quicker than you think. Every single week you will notice such improvements, and that determination to come back for week 2 is where it all starts.
- Celebrate the small stuff. Nobody expects you to nail it straight away, but recognising success, irrespective of how small, is both important and well-deserved. Maybe you remembered a move, maybe you completed a spin without falling over, maybe you built up the courage to ask someone for a dance, maybe you've stopped gripping with your thumbs? This is progress! Lots of seemingly trivial successes accumulate to enormous achievements.
- We care. We really do. Come and see us, ask us questions, ask us to dance, make mistakes, laugh and never apologise. The fun is in the learning, and your strive for perfection is only going to frustrate you further. 2 minutes with a teacher or a Taxi dancer can turn your confidence around.
So stick with it! Don't be afraid to feel like a learner. Aspire to get better, but give yourself the time.
Why bother? Because somewhere down the line that feeling of achievement is indescribable.« All blogs